• Home
  • About
  • Advertise
  • Contact
  • Policy
  • Guest Post
  • Archive

One Cent At A Time

A Personal finance blog to get rich

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Pinterest
  • RSS
  • Twitter
  • Beautiful Life
  • Becoming Rich
  • Beginners Guide
  • Extra Income
  • Productivity
  • Saving Money

Ways to Express Love and Care for your Wife

October 17, 2016 36 Comments

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Email

Everyone needs pampering, and everyone likes to feel appreciated. After 7 years of marriage, every once in awhile I take SMB, my wife, for granted (especially since I started blogging). I thought she accepted me putting numerous evening and weekend hours into blogging. But, she didn’t, she thinks OCAAT is my second wife!

How to Show Your Wife You Care

Also, my frugal ways don’t really match with hers. We were raised in contrasting lifestyles – I never had plenty of things in my life, whereas she got whatever she wanted. We know that marriage is a bond of love with mutual compromise, which keeps the bond.

Lately, I’ve done my part of the compromising a little less. Although I have amended this in the last month, I still have so many things to catch up on compared to other husbands! 🙂

I have read a few articles on relationships and marriage in preparation for writing this article. Here is what I learned – I hope the list will add spark to your life as well.

Let me start by asking, do you know your wife’s birthday?

If you don’t remember, there’s something missing in how you feel about her. Cure that part first, before trying to make her happy. Think if you truly love her, question yourself. Birthdays are special days and we expect our loved ones to remember the day, even if the loved one is a high flying jet setter.

The first and foremost thing to make your wife happy well applies to most of the wives, if not all.

Send her flower. and please don’t forget your anniversary, give her thoughtful gifts.

A flower and a dine out together with a jewelry can melt the ice and bring her closer to you. But don’t just go away after these shower of gifts. Spend time with her, love her and adore her.

If you really love her, you don’t need to read any further. You probably have figured out what you needed to do.

For if you love her, you will do these things and show these gestures on your own. Just remember how you behaved with her when you courted her. Pay the same attention, show the same love, shower the same praise. Feel the same way, again!

16 Ways to Express Love and Care

  1. Don’t forget special occasions. I track important days with a BirthdayAlarm. I set it up some 10 years ago. Since then, the website has changed many hands but they still send me emails prior to those dates. You can set up alarms or alerts using many web/phone apps. But that’s for my aunt and my cousins, not for my wife and parents. I happen to be the lucky one to share the birthday with my wife, so no question of forgetting. Use an app if you have to.
  2. Give her compliments whenever possible. Whether it’s her cooking or her outfit, you should show your appreciation when it’s appropriate. if you don’t like what she cooked, still give her compliment, she put an effort in it.
  3. Don’t ignore her for more than 2 hours when you are both at home. This is my special rule. Often I require more than 2 hours to write an article or when I get to work from home. I make a point to take a break for 10 minutes and talk to her before going back to my work. Make sure you tell her something interesting about your workplace, it’ll make her feel important.
  4. Let her be in charge of home affairs. Don’t try to argue about the need to buy a new toaster. Don’t pick up unnecessary fights. My wife loves to buy new teacups, and even though we have around 23 pairs already, I still don’t argue when she buys a new pair. It’s her hobby to drink tea in different cups every day. Let her decide which movie you two should watch next, in my case, this ensures that I get  to watch my favorite sport, and, not another cooking challenge on TV.
  5. Never make fun of her. She’s your wife and the closest friend you have. She’s certainly more important than any of your other friends. Talking about your wife’s shortcomings with others is just as bad as cheating.
  6. Clean something. Women, mostly, are cleanliness fanatic. If you don’t maintain clean hygiene it will surely turn her off. The floor, the areas at home where she can’t reach (and you can, you need to be Spiderman for that, sometimes) clean those areas. She would love your effort.
  7. Criticize her tactfully. Recently SMB bought a pair of shoes I didn’t like. When she asked for my opinion, I said the pair looked good but it lacked….blah blah. You should not start giving your opinion by being negative from the very beginning.If you feel she needs to exercise, you start doing it first. Never say that she gained weight.
  8. Fix something around the house. Anything. Chances are, she has a list of things to be fixed – ask her, then do whatever you can. Set a goal to fix one thing per weekend. Ask her if her car needs repair or an oil change. Drive her car and see if everything is all right.
  9. Let her sleep late if she wishes. I wake my wife up every day, and she prepares my breakfast and packs my lunch. I return the favor on weekends. I prepare breakfast and take it to her. Even if SMB wakes up before I bring her morning tea, she doesn’t leave bed and waits for me.
  10. A surprise dinner out can go a long way. Your wife is bound to be sick for a couple of days every month. Its a good gesture that you know those dates and surprise her with a takeout order or offer to dine out. I usually get a mouth-watering dish prepared by her within a few days of showing such gestures. Sickness or none, special treats usually go a long way in a relationship. It shows you care and think about her. (late addition – SMB has a huge objection to this claim)
  11. Take care of the kids. At least for a day every week. Change his/her diapers and let your wife take a break. This will give her a chance to go out with friends or have them come over while you take care of household matters.
  12. Spend time alone with her. Don’t always plan for a trip with your friends and kids. Plan for an exclusive gateway sometimes. Just book a hotel within a few miles from your home and spend a day there, just the two of you. Let your kids be babysat for the night.
  13. Don’t hide anything. If you have a colleague who flirts with you, tell that to your wife (although I never faced this situation 🙂 ). If you lose money in the stock market, tell her that. Tell her about the attractive lady who joined your team recently. Openness is the base of a relationship – keep the base intact and develop a mutually trusting relationship on top of it. Never hide anything financial from her. The last thing she deserves is your financial cheating.
  14. Don’t try to understand her fully. No man could ever do it. She might behave differently in similar situations at different times. Its chromosomes and hormones! Even if you praise her, she might, at times, think you actually criticized. On some days, she’ll be unhappy no matter what you do. Just take those days as they come. Don’t feel bad and give it a little time. She’ll soon be back with apologetic love.
  15. Admit your faults. Don’t let the ego come in between. Even if you find yourself apologizing for most of the time. I break this rule frequently. I resort to excuses for things she doesn’t like me doing. I need to stop that. The sooner you realize that admitting your faults to your wife is a different ball game (rather than to your boss or friends), the better your personal life would be. Admit if you forgot to buy the flowers, don’t say the florist was closed. Also, admit you had 3 drinks and not 2, for she was counting them from somewhere.
  16. Don’t smoke or drink if she doesn’t like it. I have a smoking habit, I tried to quit and I did when I first started courting her, some 12 years back. Sadly, I started smoking again. She hates it, she hates the smell from my clothes. I will quit one day, it’s just so tough to do it. If you can’t quit totally, try not to smoke at home.

Get her something special from Personalized by Kate!

You might wonder about the connection between marital relationship and personal finance. Well, I feel to manage family finance we need to first manage our family well. I believe happiness and money go hand in hand, one follows the other. Be happy at home and you’ll feel lesser urge to spend.

Found an interesting list to stop doing certain things, as a husband. You should read it here.

Let me know how you felt about this article, did it inspire you a little bit? What other gestures you feel are good for building a trusting and romantic relationship with your wife?

LIKE THIS POST?
Thank you for subscribing.
Something went wrong.
I agree to have my personal information transfered to MailChimp ( more information )
Join our community of 8000+ subscribers to increase your net worth and build wealth
We hate spam. Your email address will not be sold or shared with anyone else.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Email
The tool that changed the way I manage my personal finance - Personal Capital, The Best Free Personal Finance Tool

Want to start a WordPress blog now? The onecentatatime.com blog is hosted by Siteground Web Hosting. For only $3.95 a month, Siteground can help you set up and host your website/blog quickly and easily.

About the Blogger Hi I am SB, a personal finance enthusiast with a career in software development. I am an immigrant to the USA since 2005, after being born and brought up in India. This 40 something technocrat lives and breathes personal finance whenever he gets time from the day job, job as a husband and a dad

Some links on this page may be affiliate links, if you make a purchase following the links, I may earn a commission. Read affiliate disclosure here
« 8 Online Work at Home Jobs for a Part-timer
Plan on Saving Thousands on Mortgage Loan by Repairing Credit First »

Comments

  1. Financial Success for Young Adults says

    October 17, 2011 at 3:52 PM

    You should write a handbook for every guy I’ve ever dated! lol
    I like the non-financial article every now and then.
    And these are great tips, especially the one about not ignoring for more than 2 hours. Women need attention, at least I know I do 🙂

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 17, 2011 at 10:12 PM

      If I ever need a date I would contact you Latisha!

      Reply
    • ali says

      September 30, 2015 at 3:19 PM

      REALLY !! Every 2 hours. How insecure are you women?
      And i am a woman. You cannot survive a day without someone stroking you?
      I really don’t get this.

      Reply
  2. krantcents says

    October 17, 2011 at 7:44 PM

    Good points. It is also maintains a good marriage.

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 17, 2011 at 10:12 PM

      Hey KC welcome back, long time 🙂

      Reply
  3. [email protected] says

    October 17, 2011 at 10:39 PM

    If only more guys would think like this! Many marriages would not just survive, but thrive. Congrats on figuring this all out!

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 17, 2011 at 10:40 PM

      Thanks Maggie! I hope to continue loving her for many many years

      Reply
  4. Niki says

    October 18, 2011 at 12:40 AM

    Are you single?

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 18, 2011 at 12:41 AM

      love to be again!

      Reply
  5. First Gen American says

    October 18, 2011 at 6:14 AM

    My favorite is “fix something.” Just last night, my husband oiled our creaky bathroom door. Of Course, I could have oiled it myself, but I only ever notice it in the middle of the night when my son goes to the bathroom and shuts the door, but by morning I always forget. Last night when I saw him walking up the stairs with the wd40, I was like “Oh my god, I can’t tell you how much that’s been bugging me and I keep forgetting about it by morning.”

    I also like your lead by example tip on exercising. Same goes for purging, organizing, eating healthy, etc.

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 18, 2011 at 11:57 PM

      That’s a good personal story! I am postponing a lot of things similar to your door problem. I need to pick my tools up and fix.

      Reply
  6. Aaron Hung says

    October 18, 2011 at 8:41 AM

    good advice SB, I needed this for next week hehe.

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 18, 2011 at 8:47 AM

      best of luck

      Reply
  7. Miss T @ Prairie Eco-Thrifter says

    October 18, 2011 at 9:23 AM

    Great post. I really like some of the things you have suggested. I must admit, I am pretty lucky. My hubby treats me quite well and tries hard to support me in everything I do. He is also good for helping to get things done around the house.

    I really like your suggestion about giving compliments. It is so easy as the years go by to get complacent about complimenting. This is a great reminder to make sure we tell our sig other that they are great at X and that we appreciate their talents.

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 18, 2011 at 11:55 PM

      Good for you to get a hubby like that. This post was just a passing thought glad you liked

      Reply
  8. ProfitsOn says

    October 18, 2011 at 10:08 PM

    Look her in the eyes and say: “I love you”.

    Good post.

    Thank you.

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 18, 2011 at 11:54 PM

      good advice, when I do that I get to hear “what you want from me?” in return. 🙂

      Reply
  9. Paul @ The Frugal Toad says

    October 19, 2011 at 12:26 AM

    All right SB did the Mrs. give you a little help editing this? 🙂 On a more serious note I did figure out how to speed up my site. Stop by and check it out. Thanks for your support by the way – I finally broke 200K!

    Reply
  10. barney says

    October 19, 2011 at 7:52 PM

    just don’t get married – this sounds worse than a root canal!!! Geesh

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 20, 2011 at 7:12 AM

      advice, don’t get married 🙂

      Reply
  11. Umaid says

    October 26, 2011 at 6:15 AM

    What if wife doesn’t care me?

    Reply
    • John ikechwku says

      October 18, 2017 at 11:18 PM

      You are meant to love her and care for her, show her love, not just love but from your real heart, when you met her you fell in love with her that led to marriage and you end up marrying her, let that love cover everything she does to you, when you love you forgive her sins

      Reply
      • SB says

        October 20, 2017 at 10:26 PM

        I believe such love exists only in novels and fictions. Can you really someone so much that you forgive her every sin?

        Reply
  12. SB says

    October 27, 2011 at 11:21 AM

    Thanks technician, I guess we all have to clean our own dirt… 🙂

    Reply
  13. Sudip Adhikari says

    October 29, 2011 at 10:04 PM

    I like this….- “I make a point to take a break for 10 minutes and talk to her before finishing my writing”

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 30, 2011 at 10:22 AM

      Hey Sudip thanks for your time. Let me check out your blog.

      Reply
  14. Benson says

    October 16, 2012 at 4:52 AM

    The guy my ex girlfriend left me for dropped her for someone he works with! Your spell works fast! Of course she called me but I want nothing to do with her. I love knowing I had everything to do with this.

    Reply
  15. MomOfEight says

    December 26, 2012 at 9:46 AM

    I am floored by your thinking and want a man like this!
    Mine takes no time for me. After 15.5 yrs & 7 children, my hopes of ever having a friend in him have dried up. He consistently works away from home & has for the past 5 yrs.
    I know you’re not a counselor but you must have plenty of feedback from others. What directions

    Reply
  16. Kainat Tariq says

    October 12, 2014 at 4:43 PM

    My husband should read this -_- he needs your opinions badly 😀

    Reply
    • SB says

      October 12, 2014 at 5:27 PM

      haha lol Yes so says my wife 🙂

      Reply
  17. joe says

    September 3, 2015 at 4:55 PM

    interesting, great article and great advice. I find it interesting that all the comments are from women though. I must be the only man reading this!

    Currently I am trying to save a marriage that went bad due to issues on both our sides but I’ve decided that I am committed so naturally I am looking for advice, and this is good advice. I do some of these things but not on a consistent basis, it dawns on me that you should add a side note:

    DO THIS CONSISTENTLY NOT JUST FOR A WEEK!

    at least that’s my plan 🙂 great article

    Reply
    • SB says

      September 3, 2015 at 9:03 PM

      Thanks for being manly to comment in the post Joe! Wish you all the best in your effort.

      Reply
  18. John ikechwku says

    October 18, 2017 at 11:30 PM

    I love this , how is your relationship with your husband or wife? In relationship or marriage communication matters so much before caring for you

    Reply
  19. Don says

    April 9, 2018 at 1:18 PM

    Now this is all good and dandy…but I really never see too many articles on how to really make a man happy…why does it seem to always cater to making a women happy.
    If women are not happy them selves then its almost next to impossible to make then happy.

    You can do a few things that will give temporary happiness but inner happiness comes from the person them selves…

    I’m not going to spend all my life catering to make a women happy when she doesn’t know what happiness means or how to obtain it her self…

    Reply
    • John says

      May 28, 2020 at 6:54 AM

      I also think the man’s happiness should also be important but then what do I know.

      Reply
  20. John says

    May 28, 2020 at 6:51 AM

    Maybe love isn’t for everyone. But thanks for this. I had to post this on my what’s app status so it could help those whom love is for. Thank you sir.

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.



Create your own blog in 20 minutes and $20

Personal Capital, a free tool to change your financial health today

I use and suggest Upstart, for your personal loan need

CreditKarma, a free tool to check your credit scorey

I use Coinbase, for my crypto investments

101 Cents at a Time

101 Ways to Earn Extra Money on the Side
201 Frugal and Perfect Birthday Gifts
101 Ways to Save Money Everyday
101 Ways to be Better and Successful at Work
101 Ways to Save Environment and Energy
101 Frugal and Romantic Anniversary Ideas
101 Low-Cost Men's Fashion Ideas
101 Personal Finance Tips
101 Ways to Reuse Household Stuff
101 Things to Do, When Nothing to Do
101 College Graduation Gift Ideas
100 Tips for Ecommerce Startup
101 Ways to Enjoy Indoor During Winter
101 Ways to Beat Procrastination

Popular Posts

Quick Cash - How to make $100 legally, in a day
Living well on less than $15,000 a Year
Top survey sites for side income
What to do when auto repair goes wrong
Where should I invest my money now?
20 Ways to be productive and happy at work
51 Ways to get out of debt
Be a better person in 15 days, 15 ways
Income ideas for retirees and senior citizens
51 side jobs for college students
Urgently need a large amount of money?
Should I buy or should I rent?
Best Personal loan providers
25 Ways to save environment
25 DIY car repairs to save money
How to decorate office cubicle
How to show your wife you care
50 Financial Rules for Success
51 Frugal weekend family activity ideas
Become Rich By Saving 1 Hour Of Daily Wage
How much do I need to save for retirement?
How to negotiate your salary

Follow us on FaceBook

About Author

SB

Blogger by choice and IT manager by profession. Finance is my passion and gardening is my greatest satisfaction. Born in India, settled in US, Husband and a father. I created this blog in 2011 with a vision to help others. Thanks for your patronage. More info on my "about" page.

View all posts


Subscribe

Join our community of 5000+ subscribers to increase net worth and build wealth

Advertisements

Personal Stories

How I got a new HP computer replaced
Was COVID circulating in USA in fall of 2019?
How my credit score went up 800+
Why I didn’t invest in Bitcoins
How I controlled impulses to buy things
Why this blog is named One Cent at a Time

Subscribe via Email

Site Disclaimer

Disclosure of Material Connection: Some of the links in this web site are “affiliate links.” This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will add value to my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
Read full Affiliate disclosure


One Cent at a Time is published by SB. The opinions expressed herein by him are his own and not those of his employer or anyone else. All content on One Cent at a Time is for entertainment purposes only. By reading this blog, you agree that SB and/or One Cent at a Time is not responsible for any actions taken after reading this blog. For the full disclaimer, click here .

Major Media Mention

One Cent at a Time Media Appearances

Copyright © 2023 One Cent At A Time · Designed by Nuts and Bolts Media