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10 Ways to Catch your Partner Hiding Money from you

September 24, 2012 12 Comments

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Managing finances is a very sensitive area in marriage. Statistics show that 90% of marriages fail because of failure to manage finances responsibly. Many words have been said, lots of advice have been extended, and various ways were suggested in order to manage money. Yet, the question remains, how should we manage it? And, when one manages it, how can the other one trust the other partner?

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Before answering that question, you have to embrace the fact that when you tied the knot, two of you become one. What are yours become your spouse’s possessions too. You cannot divide your properties and limit each other to specific properties that you want to share then keep what you don’t want to share inside your locker.

However, in reality, what’s happening is otherwise. One or even both are hiding some of these properties from each other. Most common is hiding the money. In this post, I will share 10 ways on how to catch your spouse hiding money. These ways are not meant to harm any relationship. Instead, may these serve as precautions so you won’t encounter bigger problems in the future.

Tip #1: When you don’t Know How Much the Salary Is

You never get to see the paycheck or any salary record. Yes you know the job, the company, and the position. However, you keep on guessing how much the salary is. Being the spouse, it is your right to know how much the salary is. This information should be provided voluntarily since you are under the law of having conjugal properties.

Tip #2: When you don’t Know Where the Wallet Is

This is the most common act of hiding. You can’t see the wallet anywhere; even if you searched pockets, bags, cabinets, and drawers, it is nowhere to be found. Surprisingly, the only time you see the wallet is when it is being held.

Tip #3: When you can’t See Bills Coming

If you are at home, you will definitely mailers for utility bills, credit card statements, insurance papers, and other monthly payables. Note that most of the companies have this “green projects” where they give option to their subscriber to receive bills electronically. If you don’t receive your bills at home, most probably these are sent in your spouse’s email. There should be no issue on that except for not being informed of the set-up. Is your spouse hiding some information?

Tip #4 Bill payment well in advance

Apart from not being able to receive bills at home, all payables are paid in advance. Again, there should be no issue with this. Actually, this is a good sign of being able to manage finances. However, if you’re left guessing what happened to the bills if were they paid or not, this is where the issue comes.

Tip #5 You Talk about Anything under the Sun Except for Money

Communication is vital in every marriage. Being wed means being one. Walls between the two of you should be broken. All aspects of life should be discussed. All decisions should be made together even in finances. If you do not touch the topic of finances, then there’s a problem. Even if everything is doing well, you should talk about your money.

Tip #6 When all are Provided in Kind

How sweet it is if you will just be provided with all that you need and even all that you want. On the pay day, your spouse will arrive with a bag full of groceries and items needed for the household. All the things that you will use are already provided at your doorstep. These are all good but you also have to ask why. Why can’t you be the one to withdraw money from the ATM and buy these things?

Tip # 7 You have a Standard Monthly Cash Allowance, No More, No Less

Again, this can be a subtle way of hiding something from you. Instead of discussing the budget, the expenses, the salary, and other financial plans, you are given a certain amount month per month. Even if you don’t ask for it, your spouse is constantly giving it to you. Can’t you be the one to decide and get the money from the bank?

Tip # 8 Purchases are all via Credit Card or Check

Your spouse does not carry cash when you go out on a date, buy groceries, watch a movie, or shop at the mall. All purchases are done via credit card or check. If this is happening, you need to start questioning. Are all cash spent already, in the bank, or somewhere?

Tip # 9 You Found Out some Undisclosed Businesses

Whether the business was acquired before you were wedded, it is your right to know what business your spouse is into. Whether it is doing well or not, you still need to know. If at the middle of something, you found out that there are undisclosed information such as this, you have to talk to your spouse.

Tip #10 If everything above fail

If after all your attempts to talk to your spouse failed, then there is really something wrong going on. It’s either you face or elevate this to your marriage counselor. I would say do not take the situation lightly, you should seek external help. If you let your spouse continue your marriage will suffer ultimately one day.

Most of the tips are not exactly issues, they are mostly good financial practices. Advance payments, providing your needs without you asking for them and provision of allowances are all manifestations of good money management. However, if all are only managed by your spouse alone, then it becomes suspicious sometimes  The key here is communication. Your spouse should communicate, disclose, and declare all financial sources, assets, and liabilities. These information should be given voluntarily, without you asking for it.

Readers, how do you handle your finances at home? Want to share some tips with other readers?

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  1. Canadianbudgetbinder says

    September 24, 2012 at 2:23 PM

    Great points mate! I can’t hide money even if I tried Mrs.CBB would be on me in a flash. She monitors the expenses and budget just as much as I do. We also track our overtime and it’s on the refrigerator and she makes sure all the money is there and we requires pay stubs for our budget…I get an allowance and that’s to control my Tim Hortons habit which I think I’ve conquered by making more coffee at home. It can get pricey though when my work mates buy a round and then I have to reciprocate and that comes out of my allowance. I can see with my relatives who have split accounts and they don’t know what’s coming in and out how easy you could hide money although I prefer to work together towards our goals and everything is out in the open, after all what’s mine is hers and what hers is hers…. haha.. cheers Mr.CBB

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    • SB says

      September 25, 2012 at 7:46 AM

      Mr CBB, isn’t it too extreme? Honestly, all you need is trust and faith while being very fair to your partner. The kind of arrangement you have is very tough to follow for many. And you need to have great respect for each other for that kind of stuff to work.

      Very interesting arrangement where overtime goes straight to freezer. I am sure this works best for you.

      Reply
  2. Michelle says

    September 24, 2012 at 2:57 PM

    Someone very close to me is going through this! I should send them this article. I’m so glad my husband is so honest and forthcoming with me about everything, and I’m the same with him! There’s nothing we don’t discuss. Even if it’s small, we don’t ask permission, but we always tell the other. It is so sad to me that this person I love is going through this with her spouse.

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    • SB says

      September 25, 2012 at 7:48 AM

      This is very common and only possible when there’s a lack of trust. I am sure the guy wanted to protect his money from a divorce. Or, to cover for some unpublished expenses.

      Reply
  3. Malcolm says

    September 24, 2012 at 11:25 PM

    I am quite guilty reading this article, yeah sometimes i am not completely honest with my wife. but its just little things, you may not like it but i’ll work on it. After all, honestly is all that should exist between partners.

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    • SB says

      September 25, 2012 at 7:42 AM

      I am glad you realized Malcolm. All the best for the try.

      Reply
  4. Travis @DebtChronicles says

    September 25, 2012 at 9:55 AM

    Not only could these be signs that your significant other is hiding money from you….but also debt!

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  5. Mo' Money Mo' Houses says

    September 27, 2012 at 1:22 PM

    I think both spouses should be responsible for the finances, doing it together I think can help the whole money miscommunication trouble situation.

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  6. [email protected] Finance says

    September 30, 2012 at 11:58 AM

    Ick. This seems more problematic than just money hiding to me – if this is the situation, it’s likely that the couple has much more in the way of problems than they should. I think it should be between both spouses.

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  7. john says

    February 10, 2013 at 8:46 PM

    your english sucks

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    • SB says

      February 10, 2013 at 9:09 PM

      I admit, let me correct this article at-least

      Reply

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